I've had trouble doing this for most of my life. I build these scenarios in my head of what *may* happen, what I *would* say, how it would all play out; what everyday things need to be done: sand and repaint that part of the wall, caulk this, shred that, reorganize and remove this *and* that...it gets exhausting and then I feel overwhelmed and don't want to do any of it, but then I always feel so much better when I do.
so now I write my notes, make my list, and put it aside for the moment. I remind myself to enjoy the here and now, because it will never come again. Sure, I need to vacuum all the dog and cat hair that is now turning into a birds nest in that corner of the living room, but puppies and kittens are all lying near/on/around me, and I feel the love, and this moment may never come again. So I let the birds nest grow to an eagles nest and lie there with kittens and puppies and feel the love.
(the eagles nest eventually *does* go outside, just so you know.)
I do have so many things going on now (like all of us), so I remind myself not to be anxious, because after all, even at the end of our life, there will always be things left to do.
may we all be at peace today.